I think what I want this blog to do, more than anything else, is help people in general realize that adult entertainment is a job and career like any other. It has perks and challenges. It has all the same salient features as any other career, but the product/service you are selling is… YOURSELF.
That can be said of any sales person though.
With that said, I want to bring attention to the fact that networking, friendship, support systems, and office drama are all part and parcel with being an exotic dancer, or any other type of adult entertainer. You need allies in this field, just like you would in any other.
I have an ally. He’s my friend. I love him like a brother. I’m so proud of him. He’s been performing now for a year, and he’s grown so much. He’s ambitious, but we keep each other grounded. We can tell each other anything, and I trust him. That’s not easy in any situation, let alone in clubs (which for some reason can attract some truly loathsome people).
At any rate, Scotty is my friend. He’s my Bubba. Wherever possible, be sure to let your friends know that they matter. Without them you are diminished as a person. Be picky. Understand the term “friend” the way the French do: You can have many fond acquaintances (connaissances) and several buddies (copains), but only a very select few friends (amis). Avoid abusing the word friend. When you call a person a friend, let that, in and of itself, be the best compliment you could give him/her.