Comments on: Unexpected Epiphanies: Emotional stretch marks

By: Tom

Tom — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 08:48:42 +0000

Well, Devon, here I am again, late as usual, but I cannot pass this up. It’s great to experience a person’s journey from fear and anger to a place where he can say that he will once again expect the best from people. Platinum indeed! A priest I know shook his listeners out of their malaise by telling them that the commandment,’Love your neighbour as yourself’ starts working when they realize that in order to love a neighbour with ALL their faults and bright spots, you have to first love and accept yourself. We are not as good as we imagine, nor as bad as we think. Neither is the guy or gal next to us. It’s a pilgrimage I start new every day. Thanks for this reminder. Platinum words from a Platinum guy!

By: devon

devon — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 07:16:21 +0000

lol – thank you brady… every once in a while i say something that makes some sense.

By: Brady

Brady — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 06:23:46 +0000

I’m totally going to use the platinum rule somewhere, and you are getting full citation on that.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 03:34:46 +0000

Oh yeah. That’s a lesson I’m working on, too. It’s unavoidable. For me it’s that I have to accept that refusing to be vulnerable will not protect you from being hurt. It’ll just buy you a different brand, and make it even harder to fix.

“Do unto yourself, as you would have others do unto you.”

Yup.

By: joe

joe — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 23:21:21 +0000

devon,

now is the best time to put the platinum rule into play. my sayings are not as witty or well written as yours; however, i like to think they speak for themselves……look out for number one or step in number two.

if you need a support system to help you get moving, you know that many people care deeply about you and we are here for you.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:51:29 +0000

I take it your ex is HIV+? Does not sound like he is in good health. Considering what he did to you, I admire your ability to try and move past the bad experiences, but on some levels in the brain the traumas will always be there. I guess wisdom comes with knowing how they have impacted you so that you can move forward in a healthier fashion. I also like your professor’s remarks. Quite a smart guy by the sounds of it.

You are still very young in my books Devon. When I was 32 I was lonely, depressed and not knowing where my life was going. Just as well I didn’t know, but things eventually turned out for the better after a lot of struggles.

I always look on the bright side. People who have had an easy and happy life are often not very empathetic to others. You and I probably have empathy in spades by now (although my experiences with partners is nothing like yours).