Comments on: Corresponding from the he(art): My Target Audience

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 15:05:30 +0000

Thanks Devon for the reply. I must admit I am similar but for me it is going to a office work environment where I manage staff. Your type of human interaction I would find far too intense day in and day out.

By: devon

devon — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 16:10:42 +0000

i personally don’t have a decrease in sex drive; however, i have a decrease in wanting to socialize. often i just hide at home, resting, rather than go out in public at all. just going to the bank or grocery store is very taxing on me. after such intense contact with people at work, i need ALOT of cave time. the conundrum is still wanting to socialize – my outlet for this is chatting and blogging. that way i can connect with people without having to do it in person. when i take time away from work, that hermit-crab (i’m a cancer, HA) behavior goes away.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 08:51:59 +0000

Well Devon one question that has come to mind has been the impact that your job could have on your sex drive. I would think that a job that requires one to be “sexual” even in terms of creating fantasy would be detrimental. After work don’t you just want to curl up in bed with a good book. Like my brother not wanting to talk about medical issues outside of work (I keep trying to tell my Mom that with little effect).

By: Devon

Devon — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 00:51:48 +0000

yes, i was amazed at her kindness… it was completely unexpected. it caused two major shifts in the site, too: 1) i feel i have a “mission” now that affects a much wider target audience than i’d considered before and 2) it made me realize that i need to reach out to others, so that they can have an opportunity to put their voices into this conversation (hence changing the “dancers” tab to “directory”).

kindness really can be a fantastic impetus for constructive growth. she reminded me of that. she’s not the first woman to post a comment to me, but she’s the first to make me take note that i’d not been clear that all are welcome. just because i’m gay and speak from a gay male perspective, i’ve not intended this to be a site only for gay male adult entertainers. that happened naturally because i was the only one speaking. hopefully i can get some other views on here as well.

as for it being difficult to talk to adult entertainers, it’s not my place to pry, but if you ever have a question you’ve thought of that i’ve not addressed, this blog is a great place to get it answered discreetly.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 00:43:16 +0000

That is a very heart-warming e-mail. It is nice to see people outside of the gay world taking an interest in what you do. I personally feel that is due to your excellent communication skills and honesty.

I would never have learned about what exotic dancers lives are like without your blogs Devon. My current lifestyle makes it difficult to talk one on one with people in your profession.