There is no place (other than my Gramma’s house) that has ever felt like a consistent place for ME. Grampa and Gramma stayed put in their house, and I have always been able to go back to that house; however, my current apartment will be my first home created for and by myself. It is becoming the first place I have ever started forming a real since of self around. It’s a very significant milestone to me. I intend to stay put in this apartment for quite a while. There’s a reason my marriage will happen in this apartment: It’s the most sacred space I can think of.
The record for me is three years at one address without interruption. I’ve experienced that three times: When I was 10 – 12 years old in Harlem, GA; when I was 15 – 18 years old in Harlem, GA; and when I was 23 – 26 years old in Los Angeles, CA. At all other points in my life I have moved annually, and in some years I moved more than once within 12 months (the record is 3 moves in 12 months when I was 22 years old, and again when I was 26 years old). So, I’m a wanderer (which is one of the reasons I love the movie “Chocolat”); however, now I am a gypsy who can leave the caravan. I have access to a wonderful airport, so now when I need to run away (which feeds perfectly into my travel itinerary), I can do so without packing up. I can come home and still be away as much as I like.
The reason I decided against a honeymoon as I had originally planned, is so that I can put that money toward making my apartment the exotic retreat that I have all the time, rather than going off to the exotic retreat I experience briefly and only once. Most people would raise their eyebrows at all the work, time, and money I’m putting into my apartment (since I’ll never own it); however, I don’t want to own a home until several years from now at the soonest, and I do intend to set a new record at this address. At the end of the current lease in September 2012 I will match my personal record of staying at one address without interruption for three years. But this time I am going to sign on for longer, and I am finally going to be somewhere without interruption for four years.
Perhaps my internal gypsy will finally leave me in peace knowing he can be on the road anytime, and still have a gorgeous, sacred space waiting (with KITTEH there to scold me upon each return).