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Anteros: A Forgotten Myth

I have just received a copy of a new book that I had to order from Amazon’s UK division. It’s fresh off the presses, and I’m very excited. The introduction is already asking the questions that I myself was pondering, and yet I feel that I am about to put into an LGBT context many of the answers, examples, and philosophical quandaries he will be addressing throughout the work. At any rate, if you are interested in a Jungian analysis of Anteros, I invite you to find a copy of “Anteros: A Forgotten Myth” by Craig E. Stephenson. I will be interested to see how he has applied the characteristics of Anteros to his own therapy process in treating/aiding his clients, and then looking for the ways I have instinctively (and without training) either found the same/similar course or veered in a totally different direction. I don’t know yet the extent to which Stephenson will be focusing on issues of sexuality and identity, but my gut tells me that I will have more in common with him than not. Others may think I’m foolish (or out of touch) for being so lofty in my aspirations, but I honestly believe and embrace that sex powered by affection is a source of healing, nurturing, and growth, and that I can create LGBT adult videos that serve as an anterotic resource that balances the purpose and function of the erotic.

6 comments

1 Bob { 03.04.12 at 8:28 pm }

Devon,
Hold to your vision and believe. It will become a reality.

2 Ken { 03.05.12 at 9:34 am }

Devon,

This also sounds a lot like the work of Body Electric, Authentic Eros, and a number of other groups. Good for you for moving it forward in your own way.

3 Linda { 03.08.12 at 10:10 pm }

“..and that I can create LGBT adult videos that serve as an anterotic resource that balances the purpose and function of the erotic.”

Well, most of the post went sailing over my head, but the second half of your final sentence caught my eye. I’m not sure if I understood it the way you intended, but I have been so disappointed during the past few years while I’ve been actively looking at what passes for adult entertainment. A major impression I have taken away is that most adult material is juvenile, poorly made, unimaginative and ugly. It’s porn, as opposed to erotica. But often what passes for erotica seems forced, as if it was written (directed) by people sort of uncomfortable with it, as if they just want to get through it and go back to the story. (It’s like an editor said, ‘You have to put a sex scene in here…”)

I wish someone would create adult material that didn’t insult my taste, or intelligence! But it seems there’s a weird middle ground between porn and erotica where neither can stand. If sex is portrayed too graphically, it automatically becomes porn, and will not be taken seriously by mainstream entertainment. If porn attempts to incorporate anything beyond graphic sex, it’s blown off because it distracts the ‘jerk-off in front of the computer’ crowd.

That middle ground is, unfortunately, where I need to be. So, if you can someday create adult videos that can bridge the gap, I would be very happy…:-)

4 Devon { 03.09.12 at 12:13 am }

Linda… I don’t want to be presumptuous… But I think you will find that you understood me
just fine, and that you have also described our target audience members: Those who aren’t afraid of sex, but those who need more than just tawdry piston action. Those who would like to see videos that keep one foot on either side of various lines. That middle ground is where we are trying to be. Please keep us in mind this Spring when searching out a resource for your pleasure. ;-)

5 Devon { 03.18.12 at 9:49 pm }

I have read through to the finish of Chapter 5, and I have to say that this is an interesting read. I’m looking forward to moving past the explanations of the historical evolution of Anteros across the centuries and into how the author uses the precepts he is describing to help others…

6 Devon { 04.06.12 at 8:41 pm }

So… I think Craig E. Stephenson would be disappointed if he were to visit Anteros Media. In the chapter addressing Jung’s (and Jungian theorists’) ideas about Anteros, he criticizes Jung (and Jungians) for immediately removing the inherent conflict from Anteros that is part of his essential function (in terms of competing with/balancing/challenging Eros, his fraternal rival, NOT his twin brother per se): “Jung never mentions the myth of Anteros in his Collected Works. James Hillman and Molly Tuby, like other Jungian commentators, follow Plato’s lead in Phaedrus and translate ‘Anteros’ psychologically to mean ‘relational mutuality and exchange’ and ‘answering love,’ respectively… This view dissipates the dynamic tension in the myth almost immediately. How is it possible to make use of such interpretations and at the same time safeguard something of that valuable tension? How to reconcile the concept of ‘loving-in-return,’ which carries associations of reciprocation and rationality, with the accumulated images of Anteros – suicidal leaping, head-to-head opposition, vulnerable greenness and emptiness, blindfolds and burning pyres, bankruptcy and exile, darts hurled towards the heavens and dragon teeth vengefully buried in the earth?”

I would say Stephenson would criticize what I am making for oversimplifying and castrating Anteros, that what we are trying to do isn’t passionate or extreme enough in its outward expressions. And perhaps to the eye it isn’t… Yet considering what we are trying to do within the context of the EROTIC Industry, I would argue that we are very much trying to challenge other sites to do better, to act right, and to either respect people or go take a flying leap… We are trying to invent an ANTEROTIC (not anti-Erotic) Industry, specifically in the hope that Anteros will encourage Eros to mature, grow, and thrive in a healthful manner.

I made all my branding and design choices with an accidentally Jungian translation of who Anteros was meant to be. Damnation! Well… Since I’m probably the only person who will ever see this, I guess I will just have to keep it to myself that Anteros is not simply the cherubic god of reciprocal love (he is, in fact, the rather terrifying avenging god of requited passion who demands not only respect, but also ardor and struggle to a degree that strengthens Eros when the love is true, but which causes all to end in tragedy in all other circumstances…).

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