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Part 7 of 13: Fees

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Aha!!! FINALLY!! Muuuuuuuuh-nay! I’m sure some of you have been wondering when I would talk about income. Well, I think it’s time.

This entry will be brief, especially compared to many of the other entries in this series, because it is actually pretty straight forward. There are some nuances to consider, but ultimately you are in charge of managing what you are worth. Of course you are invaluable, precious, important, etc. (ad nauseum). You are unique, just like everybody else. 😉 But how does that translate into an equitable fee schedule?

Note: I am trying to speak generally, so that this section applies to all modalities of Adult Entertainment. Consider your modality (Video/Telephone Modeling, Escorting, Exotic Dance, etc.), identify who your clients are (models = companies, escorts = responders to ads, dancers = clubs/patrons, etc.), and then speak to the people who are already in the field. Do your homework, so that you do not get taken advantage of for being too low or passed over for being too high.

These are the considerations to ponder as you decide how to set your fees:

  1. What are others charging? Go to your colleagues and find out. In particular, compare the fees provided by the colleagues who in some way resemble you. That isn’t necessarily physical resemblance either. Which models offer what you want to offer, and what do they charge? Do not be afraid to charge what you are worth. By keeping your fees too low you will work yourself into poverty, rather than wealth. What fee is rewarding to you, tenable to your clients, and fair to everyone involved? Too low and you will attract clients who will treat you cheaply (since you have indicated you are cheap by pricing yourself thus), too high and you will encounter resistance from people who consider you arrogant and you will work much less frequently. Be level-headed: You don’t want to be labeled negatively in either direction because of your fee schedule. As you establish your business, play with the fees until you find the schedule that affords you the quality and quantity of business you want.
  2. Will you negotiate? Some do, some don’t. I, generally, do not negotiate. My fees are set, and they are comparable to what others are charging. If someone cannot afford me, then I probably cannot afford him. It’s nothing personal… It’s business. Milk and gas both cost me $4/gallon, just like anyone else. Such is the cost of living. However, when you start getting past simple bookings, perhaps there is room to budge. I have a fee schedule that takes all this into consideration. It really is much easier this way. But I have the advantage of reputation, so I don’t have to wrangle. When you are starting out, you may have to do so at first. I never did, because I always kept multiple streams of income, so that no single revenue base dominated me.
  3. What is your base rate, and how can you create incentives for clients to book more? My base rate for a 1-hour in-call is $250. From there I have to consider a variety of hourly discounts for in- and out-calls. Normally I keep this information away from the general public’s casual access; however, to help you understand how I have set up my fee schedule, you can look at it by clicking this link (password: just4u). I find that it makes everything much simpler to have this information readily available, so that everyone can get past the awkward issue of payment. This is the least savory part of the deal, so you want it to be as non-intrusive as possible. In Part 5 of 13: Advertising and Correspondence, I supplied the introductory email I send to potential clients when I first hear from them. Scroll down toward the middle/bottom of that entry and refresh yourself on how I let my fee schedule be known without ever discussing money until the final confirmation.

That’s enough for now. If you have specific questions, feel free to email them. In the next installment I will offer ideas on how to manage this money once you have begun generating it.

3 comments

1 CJC { 04.29.14 at 10:27 am }

Final Version (Grammar Edits)
Sorry for the previous two — I’m on my phone at lunch.

I’m still questioning if I’m charging too much. Being new to this — I don’t want to come off as “arrogant”. My objective is to create memorable experiences, not fleeting moments…

What any human truly wants is to feel embraced, valued, and genuinely appreciated — which I’m able to do, full heartily, regardless of what a client looks like.

I actually prefer it this way, because I crave “auspicious-like” encounters as well. The benefit is, afterwards I don’t have unrealistic expectations. At the end of the day my heart will never be broken.

Most of your reviews were based on 1-2 hours and they were amazing! I almost feel like if I was to go that route, I’d need a minimum of 2 hours. I would probably run over — which I’d be fine with.

See my whole thing is if Beyoncé can charge $2,500 for VIP seats — a courtesan should be able to charge ~$2,000 for a more intimate and validating encounter, which would last 16+ hours. Maybe the escort market is setting it’s standards too low. If two consenting adults decided to be intimate; making love and having sex are two different things. Even quality sex isn’t so readily available, although the media would have you believe otherwise.

Am I over-thinking, overpricing, or both? I overthink everything, which I feel will make me a great courtesan — Oprah says “love is in the details”.

2 Devon { 04.29.14 at 11:34 am }

Hey Chase,

As I have already told you: You cannot expect to set such high watermarks with no established reputation. Charging 2,000 for an overnight (let alone the 2,800 you mentioned to me) when no one else charges that (not even currently popular porn stars) is setting yourself up for failure. Beyoncé is overpaid, to be frank. I’ve seen drag queens in South Carolina gay bars who strut harder and shake their wigs with more authority. But I digress: I tried to require two-hour minimums when I first started (before I had any reviews), and you know what happened? Not much. You can talk about what you want to offer, but until you actually do so successfully and accumulate reviews most clients are not going to want to take a bet on you. The clients at Daddy’s Reviews call it “taking one for the team,” because so many unknowns describe exactly what you describe but cannot deliver on the promise/vision/intention. I will again strongly suggest that you align your pricing to what others are charging who are similar to you and your offerings.

3 CJC { 04.30.14 at 8:28 pm }

Thank you for your advice. It makes sense, basically if I wanted to use the money I earn as an escort to rent an escort. I should be making/charging a similiar amount. I know it doesn’t matter, but I think sex workers are underpaid. There’s this creepy older guy at the gym who always wears a hat. He always looks at me too, and I have to admit my stomach turned a little recently — thinking about sleeping with him.

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