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The best way to alienate your fans
In my previous post, I talked about a few ways to draw people to your work and connect with them in order to promote loyalty and increase visibility. For my last post with Devon, I want to share a story with you to illustrate a great way to lose not only fans, but subscribers for your various studios.
I am an erotic author. As part of that discipline, it’s my job to imagine wicked, sexy scenes for my novels. Last week I had a thought for one of my favorite adult models on a scene for a specific studio which with he is affiliated. The idea was simply a role reversal with another model (an idea that was not unique to that site); however, for this particular model, I hadn’t ever heard of him doing any kind of switch like this, despite seeing countless comments wishing that he would do so. I wrote out a quick sketch of my idea and emailed it to the model. We’d emailed a few times previously, so I figured there would be no harm in doing so.
I was mistaken.
To say that he was not receptive to the idea would be a grave understatement. As someone who also receives emails from fans, I saw that there were two ways he could have dealt with my email. The first would have been to simply say that he didn’t think the idea would work. This I would have understood and accepted. Instead, I received a rage-filled, hateful email (with a cruel follow up message just for good measure). I was shocked by the sheer aggressiveness and almost violence of his response, as were the friends I shared it with.
The results of that email included me pulling my subscriptions from the sites he is affiliated with, informing those studios of his interactions with their subscribers, and the withdrawal of my friends’ subscriptions. I realize that to an industry such as gay adult films that this is merely a drop in their bucket against a bankable model’s lure, but I just could not justify paying hard-earned money to someone who would treat a fan so harshly for merely trying help increase his fan base.
My advice to you, from one professional to another, is this: If you receive an email, tweet, Facebook post, blog comment, etc. that angers or upsets you, do not respond while you are angry. Once you hit that send button, you cannot take it back, and you have absolutely no control over what happens to the email. Have someone else look over your reply to see if there is the possibility that what you say may come back to haunt you. Think about the possible repercussions of your email. Would you say the same comments in a blog post or on Twitter? You just might, because there is nothing to stop the recipient from posting your email anywhere they choose.
I did not name the model or re-post the conversation publicly, because I’m not a vengeful person. My email obviously upset him, and I’m honestly sorry that it did. It was never my intention. This post serves merely to remind you that once you post something on the internet (either via email, or sites such as Twitter), you can’t ever get it back. There are thousands of bots monitoring Twitter to re-post tweets. Even if you delete the original post, it’s still out there forever. So, take a deep breath, or even a walk before you respond to someone in anger, because your reputation could depend on it.
Wishing you a wonderful and productive 2011,
– J. P. Barnaby
Erotic fiction is more than just moans, grunts, and physical pleasure. To J. P. Barnaby, erotic fiction consists not only of the mechanics of physical love, but the complex characters and relationships that lead to those all-encompassing feelings of need and longing. Sex without context is merely sex – but sex coupled with attraction, with explosive repercussions – that is good erotic fiction.