Comments on: You don’t look like yourself tonight, dear…

By: Devon

Devon — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 01:31:17 +0000

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Mike:

The way I’ve grown to see things in the years since I finally came out of the closet, be who you are, regardless of what form that takes.

I take umbrage at those who disparage “nelly queens.” I take exception when people disrespect the so-called straight acting guys. I can’t be what you want me to be. I have to be me.

And yes, I found you through SeanCodyReviews.com, I can’t lie there.

By: Tom

Tom — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 23:59:26 +0000

Yes that term is still around and is it not horrible that our own kind use it and we don’t stand up for ourselves. Just like many blacks use the N word. I remember one time coming out of Blakes in Atlanta with a friend and these guys came by and called us faggots. Well he yelled back to them and said that is Ms. Faggot to you. Don’t feel bad about your feelings. Just like other situations in life we have to bite our lip. You have expressed it and hope all of us that read your blog will learn from it.

By: Tom the Canuck

Tom the Canuck — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 10:12:45 +0000

Well, Devon, as hopeless as it sounds, all I can say is there are still self-loathing idiots in the woods. They’re everywhere, maybe even in some long forgotten synapse in my brain that creeps out during a show at a club that I came to watch and some late comers move in right in front of my sight line without so much as an ‘excuse me, can you see?’! This even happens in Canada, for God’s sake, where we’re all soooo polite! So yes the ‘F’ words(Fucking faggots) do come to mind(if not expressed). I think right now, out community is facing a crossroad in awareness and we are the only ones who can bring things back together. There aren’t many general societal values for us to use as guides, since the ones that adhere to them don’t support our interests very much. Some even rejoice at our confusion and conflict. For some the fight for a more general social acceptance of our community is moving too fast, or even in the wrong direction(some think that the desire of many gay men and lesbians to be allowed to marry is the end of our radical challenge to traditional society), while others say things are moving too slowly. Even here in Canada, with all the gains we’ve achieved, we’re still hounded by a national party that has many members who would take everything away from us if they can figure out how. And right now they are the National Government! But most LGBT folks here think everything is good enough, so don’t worry about it.I think our community here needs a galvanizing setback to spark a sense of solidarity again. We need to tweek those synaptic memories of what it was like being under threat. It’s a shame to say it, but it seems that having it ‘Good’ doesn’t always make us ‘Better’.

By: Devon

Devon — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 14:16:40 +0000

matt, what is the link to these ads?

By: Matt

Matt — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 14:02:12 +0000

Yup. Just saw the GLAAD antifaggot ads today and realized how badly I need to not even joke around with that word. Its amazing how much permission we can give others indirectly.

By: Silverlining

Silverlining — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 12:28:29 +0000

There is enough of a malignancy against LGBT that even members of its own congregation will dose themselves in their own homophobic carcinogen. Some will unabashedly exemplify it, like our dear patron, while others, in the drug-like rush of wrapping their dainty fingers around solid poles and to reverberate their bodies along the wavelengths of the air’s rhythmic twists…will momentarily let it slip out from under festering long-abandoned synapses where we thought it was extinguished.

Whirling and twirling yourself in phantasmal spirals around that sparkling axix, whose to say the man hadn’t said “It’s about goddamned time they had a real man dancing in here woo cousin Brook like a nelly fucking faggot.”

and for that you rightfully said,
thank you

hope cousin Brook tipped you well